Social media has become our society's arch nemesis. It's the thing most of us love to hate but also refuse to live without.
We see white picket fences, the kiss after the argument, the corner of the house that's not messy, the angle of the face that meets society's standards of beauty, the filter that smooths out wrinkles and wipes away blemishes, the sucked in bellies, the flexed muscles, and the splurge masking the debt.
We see the filtered and intellectually (most of us) know that it's there, yet turn a blind eye and are adamant and convinced that what we see is reality. We laugh and joke over the superficial and then turn around judge others or ourselves based on the face value we perceive. The result is spectrum with rage and disdain on one end, and envy and lust on the other.
We're conditioned to view flawless as desirable and beautiful yet we, as humans, are inherently flawed.
Even more ironic, is that perfection, flawless, and sameness is often considered boring, stodgy, uptight, and uninteresting. A double-edged sword.
We choose the media we want to see and get a curated selection within that choice, and as a result, glean a skewed outlook of reality.
We see memes, images, videos, and stories conjured up portraying someone or a group of people as someone they may not be based on one characteristic.
We see slivers of people's lives and personalities and assume we know what their all about.
Don't assume that I'm anti-hunting because I drive a Subaru.
Don't assume that I haven't shot a gun because I do yoga.
Don't assume that I don't support our president because I drink green juice.
Don't assume that I'm Godless because I believe in the healing powers of crystals.
Don't assume that I'm uneducated because I love country music.
Don't assume that I had everything handed to me on silver platter because I'm well-traveled.
Don't assume I haven't experienced hardships because I am a white female with blue eyes, and (dyed) blonde hair.
Don't assume I am against homosexuality because I believe in the right to bear arms.
Don't assume that my boyfriend and I never disagree because I post happy pictures of us.
Don't assume I'm positive and calm all of the time because I meditate.
These face value assumptions don't just happen in media. They happen walking down the street, driving down the highway, passing through the neighborhood, attending a gathering, shopping at the grocery store, they happen anywhere, and everywhere. They happen in our everyday lives, in and outside of our online lives, and they are destroying our relationships with one another and with ourselves.